How serious is the problem?

  • Over 1/3 of both male and female college students report that they have either initiated or responded with some degree of violence to their partner (Koss, 1996).
  • Between 25% and 33% of relationships between GLBT partners include abuse, a rate equal to that of heterosexual relationships (PRIDE Foundation).
  • 85% of women with disabilities are victims of domestic abuse, in comparison with, on average, 25 to 50 percent of the general population (Colorado Department of Health, 1997).

How do I know if I am in a violent relationship?

Ask yourself the following questions if you think you may be in an abusive relationship:

  • Does my partner push, shove, slap, hit, kick, punch, choke, or restrain me against my will?
  • Does my partner try to put me down or insult me by saying I could never get with anyone as good as them?
  • Does my partner try to make me feel guilty about my spending time with my family and friends? 
  • Does my partner force me to have sexual relations with him/her when I do not want to? If so, am I afraid to talk to him/her about this?
  • Does my partner monitor where I go, whom I talk to, whom I hang out with, what I wear, and what I say?
  • If I disagree with my partner about something, do I worry about a threatening and/or violent response?
  • If I told my partner that I wanted to end the relationship, am I afraid of what the response might be?
  • Does my partner call me names that make me feel bad about myself?

If you answered yes to these questions you may be in an abusive relationship.