Dear Charlie:

I think that an ex-boyfriend is stalking me. We broke up at the beginning of the school year when we were still back home living in another state. We have periodically talked but it usually ends up in arguments because I do not want to get back together while he does. A friend of mine told me that they saw him in Muncie, at a job, and living here in town. I know for a fact that there is no other reason for him to be here other than me, especially since it is so far away from home and the job market he is looking for. What I need to know is where I can go to contact someone about this, before I need to seriously worry about my safety. What do you recommend I do next and who should I talk to about this. Thank you.

Signed: KC

Dear KC:

Charlie hears that you are concerned about your ex-boyfriend.  You mention that you still communicate, but these talks typically descend into arguments about getting back together.  As you say, it's something he wants but something in which you are not interested.  In addition, it is your feeling that his interest in getting back together is what motivated him to come to Muncie-- versus some other motivation such as a legitimate job— and this is even more concerning.  It sounds like part of your fear is that things might escalate and you're asking what can do to prevent it.

Charlie suggests you call Michele Cole in the Victim's Advocate office (285-7844).  Michele is very knowledgeable about stalking behavior.   She can sit down with you to do a more thorough assessment of the situation.  If the two of you agree that action is appropriate and necessary, Michele can then discuss what the options are to increase your safety and sense of well being.  Charlie hopes that you will give Michele a call today.

To feeling safe,

Charlie