MUNCIE, Ind. -- The first swear word from a young child should be his or her last, says a Ball State University educator.

Parents can effectively stop youngsters from using bad language by immediately confronting the child, said Marcia Summers, an educational psychology professor.

"I remember when it happened to me a few years ago," said Summers, the mother of three youngsters. "I just stood there and asked, What did you say.'"

"Like most parents, I couldn't believe that this small voice could say such a terrible word," she said. "I think we, as parents, are shocked because we tend to believe that children shouldn't be using adult language."

At the first naughty peep, Summers discourages parents from taking the child to the bathroom for a mouthful of soap. Instead, parents should discuss with the child what was just uttered. Find out if the child actually understands the word or phrase, or if he or she is mimicking another family member.

"You have to determine if the child understands the word or phrase," Summers said. "Sometimes you'll be shocked when they give a pretty good explanation."

Children pick up swear words from a variety of sources, ranging from an older sibling to the bus driver to a rented video movie.

"Most of the time the youngster is repeating something heard on television or from another child," she said. "Sometimes it is nothing more than an older brother or sister trying to get the youngest into deep trouble."

Summers points out that simply explaining to the child that the word is "bad" is the first step in stopping additional "colorful metaphors" from being heard.

Parents should bring the conversation to the child's level, explaining that the little one may not be invited to parties or may be shunned by playmates. Also, parents should emphasize that while some adults laugh when swear words are used, many individuals are uncomfortable and offended.

"Everyone wants to be liked," Summers said. "Children will do almost anything to be accepted by their friends. Not getting invited to a party or not sharing in cake and ice cream is a big deal to a five-year-old."